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| henna |
| 06/17/05 at 13:08:23 |
| My mother and father were Sunni when I was born. After they separated I stayed with my mother but she did not force me to practice, so as an adult I suppose I am a muslim by rite, but not practicing. Well, I had 5 children from previous marriages to non-muslim men. One of which lives with her father (my oldest daughter) and the other 4 children reside with me. In May of last year I was married to a man for a marriage of convenience but once his immigration lawyer found out he was married in Ghana, she said that the marriage was not valid. So, because I refused to remarry him he split...back to his country. So now one year later after plenty of prayer, I have met a wonderful Muslim man (who happens to be a convert, but of 11years) and he wants to marry me in the Islamic tradition of marriage. He is also Sunni and has a son from a previous marriage. His funds are limited but his heart is rich and he is willing to accept my children. But now I don't know what to do. Any ideas? |
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| theOriginal |
| 06/17/05 at 14:21:04 |
| [slm] Say yes :) It all sounds very romantic to me. I guess in all seriousness you should assess if he's the one for you, someone you are finally willing to settle with. From an Islamic perspective, you can marry him, there's no problem with it (since you are Muslim by rite). Best of luck.. Wasalaam. |
| istikhara |
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| Maliki-Sis |
| 06/17/05 at 17:08:36 |
| Salam Do salatul-istikhara sis xxx |
| Marry him |
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| sal |
| 06/18/05 at 02:27:31 |
| [slm] Marry him |
| Help...cont. |
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| henna |
| 06/20/05 at 09:08:02 |
| Thank you sisters for your help in this decision. My only issue with this is I have not file for my annulment to show that the marriage never existed. I don't think I have to get a divorce, but for US records purposes to show that I am a single woman, I believe I do have to annul the marriage. So I'm not even sure if I am still married to the man from Ghana, even though his immigration lawyer said that the marriage is not valid because of his previous. ??? I have since explained this to him and he says this is fine, and I have tried to be very truthful and honest with him, but I don't want to lose him. :'( He was previously married to a woman in TN who also had 4 children from a previous marriage, so this issue is fairly similar to a previous one he had. But this is all new to me. |
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