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Maximum Age Difference...
Lovin_Niqaab
06/19/05 at 17:25:55
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I have an interesting question:

Personally, what would be the maximum age difference you would allow between your husband and yourself and vice versa?

2 Years? 10 Years? 20 Years?

Take into account that he/she is your ideal muslim. Fair, fun loving, caring, handsome/beautiful and anything else you could possibly want in a spouse.

[wlm]  :-)
06/19/05 at 17:27:42
Lovin_Niqaab
vice versa
siddiqui
06/19/05 at 22:20:38
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+/ - (5-6) years was what I had envisioned would be ideal though there was a time I was looking at some thing like 10 but Alhamdullilah settled for 1 :)
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Maximum Age Difference
zenelle
06/20/05 at 02:44:58
Before I met my fiance I didn't have a particular age in mind. As I got older though I found that I had more in common with older men. The man I am with now is 18 years older than me. :o I am 22 and he will be 40 this month. We have been together for three years and our relationship is great. Our relationship did begin as a non-Muslim one though. He has been Muslim for several years, but at the time I met him he was not practicing and I came from a Christian home. Now he is practicing and I have converted and we intend to marry as soon as possible. We also have a daughter together and we want her to be raised this way. Personally I don't think age matters as much as the persons goals and lifestyle. If you have similar interests and desires then you can make it work at any age.

:-)Zena
Impressed...
Lovin_Niqaab
06/20/05 at 15:16:47
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Mashallah Zena...

It's amazing that you are able tune out from the gasps and scoldings about the big difference between the two of you. It impresses me that you do not care what others think and are concentrating on your relationship, because you love him.

Mashallah Tabarak Allah  :)

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Maximum Age Difference
onemuslimgirl
06/21/05 at 13:05:43
as i have observed from different couples is that it is different for each couple. for me, i can get along with guys that are younger by max 2 years and up to about 10 years older than myslef. but that is just a personal thing.

i know some sisters who married guys much younger than themselves and are very happy (i mean like 8 years plus). and there are sisters who married guys much older (12 years plus) and are happy. age is just a number.....
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funny funny funny
a_Silver_Rose
07/13/05 at 02:48:18
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well me like bro Sid was also think 6 yrs then was looking at something like ten and settled for the same age lol funny isnt it
Maximum Age Difference
Laila_Y_A
07/14/05 at 16:21:23
20 years older than myself, nothing younger
Grab Him!!
Kathy
07/14/05 at 21:16:42
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...well after the wedding that is!

[quote]Take into account that he is your ideal muslim. Fair, fun loving, caring, handsome and anything else you could possibly want in a spouse. [/quote]

No one really knows how long someone is goint to live. Even the young die! If he is as described above.. Don't waste another minute without him!
Re: Maximum Age Difference...
wahdamuslimah
07/26/05 at 06:58:40
i think the same age is nice...everyone around me is against that tho, they keep telling me to go for someone older (anywhere over 10 years)
but wont it feel like a whole generation gap?


Re: Maximum Age Difference...
Medo
07/26/05 at 23:18:46
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The maximum age difference wouldbe (10) years :)

Another post from Medo, Alright!;)


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Re: Maximum Age Difference...
Kathy
07/27/05 at 07:14:27
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As far as age difference between a wife and her hubby, I think it depends at which age level you are at.

For example if he is 18 and she is 28... way too much difference.

If he is 25 and she is 35... still way too much unless he is really mature and out of the college hang out with the guys phase.

Things change tho once he hits 35. I think if he is 35 and she is 45... things may be allright.

;)  heh heh... talking from experiance!


I would like to hear from sis's whose hubby is older and their take  on this subject.
Re: Grab Him!!
Fozia
07/27/05 at 08:20:58
[quote author=Kathy link=board=sis;num=1119216355;start=0#7 date=07/14/05 at 21:16:42] [slm]
...well after the wedding that is!


No one really knows how long someone is goint to live. Even the young die! If he is as described above.. Don't waste another minute without him![/quote]

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Agree completely. On the other hand if my husband were 20 years younger than me he be errrrr 7 so that might be a bit young really.

There's a 7 year age gap between us, husband is older, but I wasn't looking for a certain age at all....



Wassalaam
Re: Maximum Age Difference...
ummziba
07/31/05 at 14:35:25
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My husband is 5 years younger than me.  I think younger is ideal because men age more quickly than women, so at middle age, we are the same!  It's true what most are saying, though, it is the compatibility that is important more so than age.
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Re: Maximum Age Difference...
Ibu
08/10/05 at 02:45:33
[slm] :)

I was 38 and my husband 27 when we married 5 years ago. Now I am 43 and he's 32. I kiss his hand after saying our shalat together because he is my imam and the kindest and most beautiful human being, and he kisses my hand back because I am his wife and he loves me.

It's not age. It's being ikhlas to accept what Allah gives you.
:-)
PS: I am new to the forum. My greetings to you Sisters...
Re: Maximum Age Difference...
Kathy
08/10/05 at 07:02:22
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Your post made me smile Ibu, Welcome to Madinat al-Muslimeen!

Post an introduction in the bepsi section.


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