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| Lost her baby.... |
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| Trustworthy |
| 07/15/05 at 18:53:10 |
| [slm] warah mutullaahi wa barakaatuh... Please make du'a for my cousin. She just found out that her baby is still born and will need to vacuum it out. This is her first still born after having 2 healthy children so she is not handling it very well. Jazakhullahu Khairun.... Allah (SWT) bless... Ma-assalaamah.... |
| sad |
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| jannah |
| 07/15/05 at 23:56:09 |
| wlm, that is very sad... inshallah we will make dua for her wsalaam |
| In deep grief... |
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| abdul_aziz |
| 08/09/05 at 14:49:10 |
| [slm] It is indeed heart-breaking news for us all. May Almighty Allah give our sister the 'sabr' that she needs most in this time of trial, and that her faith in His healing be intact. May she realize that this is a time of test from Allah, and that she needs to be patient to pass it. May Allah ease her pain and suffering and give her serenity. — Ameen Insha-Allah, I will make dua for her when I pray. [wlm] |
| Re: Lost her baby.... |
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| ummnajmah |
| 08/10/05 at 09:49:21 |
| [slm]My Cousin to went thru something like this very recently thought it was her little baby that passed away. It was really sad for her coz after several still births, she was so happy that she had her baby and the baby did not make it to a year. You wonder what you truly can say to a woman who is going thru this, coz it's hard. I remember when I told my husband, his reply was nice and uplifting. He advised me to tell her to have patience, that inshallah her baby will be in Jannah waiting for her.Inshallah, your cousin too will find the strength to continue on and look to her two little children as Allah(SWT) blessings for her. I inshallah will remember her in my dua sis. How sad! [wlm] |
| Re: Lost her baby.... |
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| Caraj |
| 08/10/05 at 15:21:31 |
| [quote author=ummnajmah link=board=madrasa;num=1121467991;start=0#3 date=08/10/05 at 09:49:21] You wonder what you truly can say to a woman who is going thru this, coz it's hard. [wlm][/quote] I lost my first child. It was over 28 years ago., It is very hard and I can tell you from experience what most women in this situation 'don't' want to hear. When I lost my baby I cried everytime I seen a baby in public and everytime I seen baby ads on TV. People would say things like: There must of been something wrong with it and this is natures way Or: It was God's will Or: You will have other children. I was getting so angry these comments sound like OH well there will be more. People don't realize how insensative they seem to a woman in pain. We are not rational at a time like that to remember one means well. Only one person in my life knew what to do. Two or Three days after I lost my baby I walked to my aunts house about 2 blocks. She opened the door, no words were exchanges, we looked at each other and both of us bursted into tears and she just held me while I cried. I just needed someone to hold me and cry with me. I didn't need the words. Sometimes the best thing to do is a hug and simply say 'I am so sorry, I am here if there is anything I can do, please let me know.' We don't want to hear how there will be other babies or it was Allah's will. We already know this. We just need to cry and grieve until we are done crying and grieving in our own time. Hope that makes sense |
| 08/10/05 at 15:26:22 |
| Caraj |
| Re: Lost her baby.... |
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| georger |
| 08/22/05 at 22:42:16 |
| Oh that is so sad. I am so sorry!! Be with her, she needs your company and compassion! I love children, I love babies! They're just great! What a great way to start life! Small, lovable, cute and needing their mothers love!! There are no shortcuts across the pain of something like this, you have to wade all the way through it. Help her. Thanks. |
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