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| Forgivemess/What goes around comes around |
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| Caraj |
| 08/15/05 at 02:41:58 |
| Ever have someone say something to you and it haunts your thoughts? Today I was talking to the father of my sons (been divorced from him over 20 yrs) He was visiting my son in Maryland and he told me about an awful thing that happened to his father. I felt bad for the man and hope it is straightened out and mentioned this to my x'husb. To which he said, What comes around goes around, he met his wife messing around on my mother and 35 years later he made his bed and it's hard and he has to sleep in it. I was like :o I mentioned it was over 30 years ago and we all make mistakes and I spoke to him about forgiveness. It didn't phase him. I spoke to another about this and said would you want to suffer for a mistake you made years and years ago? To which this person replied Oh well, if it happens there is nothing I can do about it. How do you feel wondering if in your old age you will be misrable for something you did in your youth. The reply was: Misrable is just a state of mind. Again I was like :o I know this world is cold and callased, but it still amazes me when I witness it. People are so cold and so uncaring. It makes me want to pack up and move into the wilderness. Then I got to thinking about all the things I had done wrong. The people I had hurt in my past. And I thought OH Allah does anyone feel this way about me? This whole things seems to be consuming my mind today. Not so much cause of the consequences are although that is worrisome also. But the idea that I have hurt people with my actions and or words in the past really bothers me. |
| 08/15/05 at 02:42:53 |
| Caraj |
| Re: Forgivemess/What goes around comes around |
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| abdul_aziz |
| 08/15/05 at 10:10:22 |
| [slm] Well, sister Azizah, that was something for us all to think about. I too have seen an incident of this type very close to home. One of my immediate uncles, (in days of his youth) had this penchant for imitating people and making fun of them behind their backs. So much that he wouldn't even spare those who were mentally or physically challenged. (He still hasn't given up that habit.) Now he has three children. The eldest son who's older to me (about 25-ish), a daughter of around 16, and a third son of 13 years. And, this last son of his, is both mentally, as well as physically challenged. It is indeed heart-breaking to see that boy, (who's around the same age as my own brother) move around or do daily activities, with great difficulty. I sometimes feel sorry for my uncle when I think of it, but then again, he still doesn't seem to mend his ways. I always pray to Allah to have mercy on the little boy and give him patience and strength to face the world. A line that I had read somewhere comes to mind now, it says "One of the horrors of Hell is the undying memory of a misspent life". But then again, that is about when one has left this world... [wlm] |
| Re: Forgivemess/What goes around comes around |
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| naqibah |
| 08/18/05 at 13:42:19 |
| Salaam Sis Azizah, I think none of us are perfect in any way. We all make one or other kinds of mistakes. It is when we learn and understand it, and make efforts to make our life better from these mistakes, do we then become better Muslims, God Willing. I consider myself a compassionate person, but when it comes to family members, I adhere to a very strict code of conduct. Which means, it might be easy for me to forgive, but very difficult for me to forget. I wonder, does forgetting need to be the essence of forgiveness. I have given myself countless excuses to forget, but none to forgive. Especially when you have a father, brothers, uncles and other male relatives that only knows how to hurt you, but have done nothing to soothe you. I am talking about myself as the "victim". Not only are they ignorant Muslims, but they think too highly of themselves. So much so, that when they behave in a despicable manner, it is perfectly fine in their eyes. I know the world has developed in leaps and bounds and this is the new millenium. You'd expect that people have learnt a lot from history and the wise ones who have passed on into the next life, but sadly, we are actually regressing. I sympathise with your situation, and thank God that at least you didn't have to put up with your ex's nonsense... they say divorce is something that God allows although it is not favourable. But in your case, I'd say it is your blessings. If you have found a perfect jungle or cave to move into, let me know. I'd like to join you ;) Take care, and enjoy life until your last breath. Salaam. |
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