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| Anonymous |
| 08/30/05 at 14:27:33 |
| Salam I am sure something like this has been discussed earlier :) I have an interview tomorrow after a loooonnng time.Alhamdullah for that. I know everything happens by the will of Allah swt and out of nowhere He has send this interview for me. Since last 10+ years I havent not shaken hand with opposite sex whether it was a job interview, social meeting etc. I am a firm believer that rizq comes from ALlah swt only. I have been thinking about this interview and hand shake a lot, since I really need this job and also in last year or so I have refused interviews for couple of jobs which were kind of consider Haram and now this interview has come up and it is kind of perfect job. One of my friend said that it is consider very rude not to shake hand specially in an interview and that normally you dont shake hand everyday at the job so shaking hand on interview day would not be consider so wrong and later you can say that I dont shake hand. I kind of think that this would be decieving? I dont know what I am asking for except for prayers from you all but I would really like some input on this issue. Jazak Allah khair Wasalam |
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| theOriginal |
| 08/31/05 at 08:31:45 |
| [slm] maybe you will be interviewed by someone of the same gender? anyway, i don't think it's all that important to shake a hand during an interview. and think about how awful you would feel if you shook the hand and got the job (inshaAllah you will get it)... because then you'll be like "i would have gotten it whether or not i shook hands" ...because that is the reality of the situation anyway. worse, what if you shook it and didn't get it? then you'd be like "what a waste". right? now look at it from the other perspective: what if you don't shake the hand, and get the job (inshaAllah)..then you'll be like "woohoo...thawab here i come." good luck. wasalaam. |
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| peaceb2u |
| 09/05/05 at 22:29:49 |
| :-) [slm] How did it go? Inshallah, all went well? I pray that Allah makes easy for you the means by which to attain His Rizq because you are trying to act in a way that is pleasing to Him. Ameen. I've been thinking about this situation myself for a very long time as well. I always wondered if a "hand-shaking" problem like this could be avoided by talking to the person who set up the interview--before the actual interview-- about it. For example, when the individual tells you that you should come to this and this place at this and this time, perhaps you can tell him that you it is not your custom to shake hands with individuals of the opposite gender, and ask him/her if that would be a problem at the interview? I'm hoping that the interviewer would reply, "Of course not!" and that this may remove the problem of having to deal with the handshake in person. Do you think that this is realistic? I wonder. Whenever I try not to shake hands with people of the opposite gender I just say, "I'm sorry...I don't shake hands with men...but I'm pleased to meet you!" This usually results in a slightly awkward retrieval of hand by the other individual, but things usually work themselves out quite quickly afterwards. But now I am studying to be a clinician, and I often need to be available to help prop up my patient , or to be of some physical assistance. I do this without thinking twice about whether or not my patient is male or female, because I feel like I should always be there to help someone in need. Is this holding double standards, or do you think that a relationship b/w a patient and his health-care provider is different from that between a professional and his colleagues? I'd be interested in hearing other people's opinions on this. wassalam :-) |
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| theOriginal |
| 09/06/05 at 06:48:36 |
| [slm] Very interesting... In Abbottabad recently a female pedestrian got crushed between two trucks, and broke her back. SHe happened to be the only woman on the road at the time, and all the onlookers kept gawking as she lay helpless and screaming. They didn't do anything, because touching a non-mahram is wrong. To me, it's just illogical. But I guess it's a value judgement. Wasalaam. |
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| Hatice |
| 09/06/05 at 16:12:41 |
| A pair of gloves maybe helpful ;D . Just kidding, sorry. It's a hard situation, really. ??? |
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| Siham |
| 09/07/05 at 11:02:36 |
| Assalam Alaikum, I think as Muslims we should be firm on our faith, because Allah is not ashamed of the truth. We can accept their greetings by words only and we could politely apologize and explain that the reason behind our actions, so people have a clear understanding of the reason why we do not shake hands with the apposite gender -- which is actually not to offend or hurt their feelings in anyways, but on the contrary it is because we are simply following the teachings of Islam. Moreover, I think in the case of medical treatment, it is permissible, because it is the case of necessity. And only of course, if there aren't any men available to treat the patient. In most cases they will respect your practice, and this may well even be a good opportunity for da’wah. Allahu Ahlam, wasalaams. |
| 09/07/05 at 12:54:29 |
| Siham |
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