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| Social phobia? |
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| Anonymous |
| 10/23/05 at 23:50:30 |
| Assalmu alikom, i feel so lonely, i feel i'm losing all my relationships with my relatives & mates (because i suffer from something like social phobia), & i really do hate myself much, i can't take control over my fear , & finally i was dismissed by a person i trusted (the only person who gave me strength & confidence); he told me he was going to ask my family to marry me, & all his actions (& his true love) ensured me so, but, suddenly i found him completely changing his situation, & here i'm again still lonely & weak -- wa la illah ella ALLAH..(note: i don't like to give myself excuses, & i'm really fool to trust someone without a clear islamic relationship, may be i deserve that)..& i feel i'm far from ALLAH, i can't do my worship in a properly ... i'm writing that just to drive out all the thoughts driving me mad... thanks for giving me a space to send my thoughts... |
| Re: Social phobia? |
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| theOriginal |
| 10/24/05 at 10:04:16 |
| [slm] I think you're dealing with a few separate issues here: #1) The guy factor. My advice -- Get over him. It's tough...really, really tough. But it really, really must be done. If he ever comes around, it'll be on new terms...not on these old, tired, and depressing ones. So, either way, you have to get over him, by moving past him...regardless of whether or not he decides to marry you eventually. Plus, dealing with the other issues will be a lot easier without a broken heart to blame everything on. Just trust me on this one, okay? #2) The imaan factor. My advice -- it's Ramadan. Pray your heart out. Duaa, duaa, and more duaa. Even if you don't feel like praying extra nawafil, or reading the Qur'an as much as you'd like....just do it. And make duaa that you start feeling more conjoined with your own faith. I can't really help you on this one, but inshaAllah, I can pray for you. #3) The social phobia factor. I don't know how bad it is for you, but I've had it really bad for a really long time. I have recently made a very good friend who suffers from the same thing, and we're considering going to therapy for it lol. But if you screen calls, make promises that you can't keep, run away in the middle of sentences, avoid social gatherings, don't make it to appointments, would rather email or use em-eth-en methenger...yes we got a problem here. But you're not alone!!! I'll get back to you on this... Wasalaam. |
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