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| Questions from dying nonmuslim friend |
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| Anonymous |
| 11/09/05 at 14:10:01 |
| Asalamaulikum, I am posting this message about 6/7 (even more) after e-mailing sister Jannah who was a great help to me. I am in search of help, and answers to some questions. A a child, I was abused twice on separate occasions by family friend and family member. I got engaged last year I really couldn't see how I would be able to deal with the problem of forfilling my wife duties. I seeked help with this issue, from various people. I just about came to terms with things when my best friend told me she had cancer. Shes a non-believer (Christian) and we've always talked about her moving over to the path of Islam. We've been reading books together, and discussing topics. The following questions were asked, but I cannot answer them. Can someone please help? I would like to answer them for her as shes getting more and more ill by the day. 1) Is it true that not all books are accuratly translated in english from Arabic to do with Isam? 2) Is it true that all women of Heaven will be white in skin tone-if so is it acceptable for Muslim brothers and sisters on earth to judge by ones colour? (theres a reference to pearls apparently) 3) Is it true regardless of ones happiness every man granted Jannat will recieve 72 virgin brides and he will be able to choose weather or not his wife from Earth is his wife in Jannat? 4) Will every women on earth who has done all in her will to keep her husband happy in this life recieve her husband in the nect life? 5) Is it wrong to tell your husband/wife you'll love them forever? 6) Can a couple (muslim) who are married in this life be destined and happy in the next life or will the wife from Earth be replaced by the 72 other wives? 7) A man will not have a favourite wife in heaven, and all will live in the same house and be treated as equals. There will be no children as a result of husband and wife relations. 8) THIS my friend read, which I don't think makes sense. Each and every persons reward in Jannat will be what makes them Happy-for example if ones child died when they were say 10 they will be able to see them again. Or if ones partner died and the person on earth was unable to move on they will be reunited. I can understand if this was true, that every persons Jannat rewards will be based on their own happiness. But I need to clarifying before I can tell my friend. This question is more for me really. After my "issues" with what happend to me as a child I have found it a massive struggle to trust men. I know its wrong and not all men are the same, but its hard. I read the same material as my friend and find a few things confusing as I read in a book before (when I was 11 a good decade or so ago) that if one keeps their husband and Allah, the Prophet (PBUH) happy then she will be granted her husband in the next life too. The books I have recently read state each man will recieve 72 wives, no reference to weather or not any couple from this life will be reunited. I suppose after working so much towards trusting my husband I'm struggling with the "what if" after this life is over and I've done all I can to do right I cannot be with the person who makes me a) happy b) stronger c) yes, i love him. I hope someone can shine some light on the questions, I feel bad that my friend is ill, and talk of converting has resulted in many questions which I am happy about. Sister Jannah, I am very greatful towards you for advise and help. May Allah give you everything you deserve! Amin. Take care. Allah Hafiz |
| Re: Questions from dying nonmuslim friend |
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| timbuktu |
| 11/09/05 at 15:28:13 |
| [slm] 1) Is it true that not all books are accurately translated in english from Arabic to do  with Islam? Translations cannot do entire justice, and there are many, many books on Islam so yes, all books on Islam will not have been translated accurately. If you are talking of the Quran and Hadith only, the Quran cannot be translated. Only an attempt can be made for translation of the meanings, and occassionally one does come across a better understanding. For example the word "yawm" has been translated as day, and often we understand it to mean a 24 hour day. However, it was realised that "yawm" can also mean "aeons" or "ages", so the creation of the Earth in six yawm  can be now be translated as "six ages". 2) Is it true that all women of Heaven will be white in skin tone-if so is it acceptable  for Muslim brothers and sisters on earth to judge by ones colour? (theres a reference to  pearls apparently). The women's skin will be transparent so that the bone marrow will be visible. I think perhaps white skin has been mantioned, but I am not sure. However, it is not acceptible to judge people by the color of their skin on this Earth. The honor of calling the Muslims to prayers was assigned to Bilal (ra), an Ethiopian slave who had been bougth to be freed by Abu Bakr (ra). 3) Is it true regardless of ones happiness every man granted Jannat will recieve 72  virgin brides and he will be able to choose weather or not his wife from Earth is his wife in  Jannat? Not true about the 72 virgin wives for all, and the choice of spouse from the husbands on this Earth will be given to the women. 4) Will every women on earth who has done all in her will to keep her husband happy in  this life recieve her husband in the next life? Women will be so rewarded, yes. It must be remembered that in Paradise men and women will only have good qualities, so the spouse one is dissatisfied with in this world, will have been transformed into the perfect one. 5) Is it wrong to tell your husband/wife you'll love them forever?  Yes and No. We cannot predict the future, so we should perhaps add "Insha`Allah", but it is not necessary to add it aloud. :) 6) Can a couple (muslim) who are married in this life be destined and happy in the next  life or will the wife from Earth be replaced by the 72 other wives? The couple will be together. 7) A man will not have a favourite wife in heaven, and all will live in the same house  and be treated as equals. There will be no children as a result of husband and wife  relations. There will be children but there will not be the problems and the wait associated with pregnancy. |
| 11/09/05 at 15:35:34 |
| timbuktu |
| Re: Questions from dying nonmuslim friend |
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| Siham |
| 11/09/05 at 21:09:27 |
| Assalamu Alaikum, Dear Sister, I’m really sorry to hear about your past, May Allah SWT help you ease your pain insha’Allah. Sis, the only thing that is [i]permanent[/i] in this world is the spouse and if you're happy with your husband, right here on earth, you will be reunited in the hereafter insha’Allah, about the other women, you will be the most beautiful woman of them all, so there is no competition ;) [quote]Is it wrong to tell your husband/wife you'll love them forever? [/quote] Subhan'Allah. No not at all, Allah says:"And he has put love and mercy between you", when referring to spousal relations. The Prophet (PBUH) said: "Of the things in your world that are beloved to me, are women, perfume, and the coolness of my eyes during the prayer." Ali (RA) would often recite poetry to express his love for Fatima (RA). And the Prophet (PBUH) loved his wives very much, and vice versa. We couldn’t even begin to understand what their love must have been like. [quote]Is it true that all women of Heaven will be white in skin tone-if so is it acceptable for Muslim brothers and sisters on earth to judge by ones colour? (theres a reference to pearls apparently) [/quote] The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said to a companion: "You are not better than people (of other races) unless you excel them in piety." (Al-Tirmidhi, Hadith 1361) At-Tabarani. More Ahadith: Ahadith: Umm-e-Salma (Radhiallaahu Anha) mentions that she asked Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) to explain the Aayat, ‘Thera will be hoorun-een’. (56:22). Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, ‘They will be women with wide eyes having a sharp contrast between the white of the cornea and the black of the iris. They will be fair complexioned and their limbs will be free of hair like the wings of a bird.’ Umm-e-Salma (Radhiallaahu Anhu) then asked for an explanation of the verse, ‘They will be like concealed pearls’ (56:23) to which Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) explained that their purity would be like that of a earl still inside the oyster, untouched by human hands.’ She then asked for an explanation of the verse, ‘They will be good and fair’ (55:70) to which Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) replied, ‘Their character will be good and their faces will be fair.’ She then asked Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) to explain the verse, ‘It will be as if they are preserved eggs.’ Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, ‘Their softness and delicacy would be like that of the skin you see inside the egg under the shell.’ She then asked Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) to explain the verses, ‘We made them virgins, loving and equal in age.’ (56:36, 37). Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) explained, ‘They will be those women who left this world old, grey-haired and purch-skinned. Allah will recreate them after this old-age and will make them loving virgins who would be very passionate towards their husband who in turn would be madly in love with them. They would all be of the same age.’ She then asked, ‘O Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam), are the women of this world superior or the hurs?’ He replied, ‘The women of this world will have superiority over the hurs just as the outer lining of a garment has superiority over the inner lining.’ Umm-e-Salma (Radhiallaahu Anhu) then asked, ‘O Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam), what is the reason for this?’ He answered, ‘Because they performed Salaat, fasted and worshipped Allah. Allah will put light on their faces and silk on their bodies. (the human women) will be fair in complexion and will wear green clothing and yellow jewellery. Their incense-burners will be made of pearls and their combs will be of gold. They will say, ‘We are the women who will stay forever and we will never die. We are the women who will always remain in comfort and we will never die. We are the women who will always remain in comfort and we will never undergo difficulty. We are the women who will stay and we will never leave. Listen, we are happy women and we will never become sad. Glad tidings to those men for whom we are and who are for us.’ She then asked, ‘A women of this world married two, three or four husband in this world, then dies and enters Jannah with them, who will be her husband?’ Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) answered, ‘O Umm-e-Salma (Radhiallaahu Anhu), she will be allowed to choose between them, so she will choose the one with the best character. She will say to Allah, O Allah, this husband displayed the best character to me in the world, so marry him to me.’ Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) further added, ‘O Umm-e-Salma, good character has gained (for him) the excellence of this world and the hereafter.’ [narrated by Tabrani vol.23 pg.367; ibn Kathir in his Tafseer under verse22 Surah56] I hope this helps insha’Allah. Wassalaam. |
| 11/09/05 at 21:20:38 |
| Siham |
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